Woman left furious after fiancé demands she entertain his coworker's wife, while he hosts weekly Magic: The Gathering card game sessions with coworkers, sparking argument when she refuses to entertain a "stranger" for +7 hours: 'It's the least I could do'

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  • AITA for not wanting to hang out with my fiancé’s coworker’s wife while they play games for 7+ hours?

    I (24F) live with my fiancé (25M), and every weekend he hosts his two best friends for Magic: The Gathering.
  • They've been doing this at our place for almost two years now. These sessions are like 7 to 12+ hours long.
  • I'm not exaggerating. I don't really mind it. It's kind of my "me day." I usually catch up on homework (I'm a full-time student), do chores, or binge a movie marathon.
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  • I keep snacks and drinks stocked for them, but otherwise, I let them do their thing.
  • Occasionally, one of the guys brings his girlfriend, and we'll hang out for a few hours before she gets tired and convinces him to leave early.
  • It's always chill. About a month ago, my fiancé invited a new coworker to join. I met him briefly when I came downstairs hours after he came in since they started playing at 7am (yes, really).
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  • I said something polite like, "Oh, you're [Coworker], my fiancé talks about you all the time!" He smiled, gave a quick nod, and went right back to the game.
  • Totally fine, they were focused, and we didn't really get a chance to chat. That was the extent of it, and honestly, that's all I needed.
  • Fast-forward to this week. On Thursday night, my fiancé calls me and says they're doing another game day this weekend and that his coworker will be joining again.
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  • Then he adds, "Oh, and his wife is coming too." Apparently, the coworker's wife "freaked out" the last time he came over (have no details as to why), so now she's insisting on coming with him.
  • My fiancé says this like it's no big deal. I ask, "Wait - she's coming here?
  • To hang out with me? For like... eight hours?" He goes, "Yeah, you guys can hang out!
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  • You'll make a new friend." Here's the thing: it's not like that would've been the end of the world.
  • If I'd had a really good, energetic week, I probably would've said yes and made the best of it.
  • But I was already feeling burnt out, anxious, and behind on schoolwork. The idea of spending an entire day trying to entertain a total stranger just sounded exhausting.
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  • Two woman sitting and talking on the couch.
  • I told him I wasn't comfortable with it and didn't feel up to hosting someone I'd never met.
  • I also explained multiple times that I'd be totally fine hanging out with her after meeting her naturally first like grabbing dinner or drinks together sometime.
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  • Even one casual meeting would've made me feel better about it. Instead of understanding, he immediately started brainstorming ways to "make it less awkward". "You two can watch movies • together!" "We'll take her out for lunch, my treat!" • "You can just say hi and go upstairs while she watches us play!" That last one honestly made my blood boil, because he knows damn well I'd never just ignore someone sitting alone in our house.
  • That's 10x more awkward than just saying no and it bothers me that he doesn't see that.
  • Feeling defeated, I told him he could still have everyone over, but I wouldn't be home.
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  • That's when he got defensive and said I was being unfair since I've hung out with his friends' girlfriends before.
  • I reminded him those girls and I had met multiple times first, so we actually knew each other before spending hours together.
  • He then said it would be weird of me to say no to his coworker's wife when the coworker himself had already been over before, like it would somehow look bad or make things uncomfortable for him at work.
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  • Then he started bringing up totally unrelated situations to prove I was "being difficult," like when he came to a Christmas party with my friends he didn't like years ago (which is not the same he already knew them, and it lasted three hours, not eight).
  • The argument spiraled. He said I was being "lazy" since | only go to school three days a week and don't work right now, so this was "the least I could do." I admit, I snapped and called him a few names out of frustration, and then I locked myself in the other room because I couldn't keep arguing in circles.
  • Couple having a tense coversation
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  • The next day, he apologized and said the coworker and his wife wouldn't come over after all.
  • But then he mentioned that one of the other guys cancelled anyway, so I'm pretty sure he only apologized because the whole game night fell apart either way.
  • Now everything's "fine," but I'm still bothered. It's not even about her coming over, like I said not the end of the world if I had to.
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  • I just wanted my fiancé to listen when I said I wasn't comfortable. I wasn't banning his coworker or his wife; I just wanted to meet her naturally first.
  • What made it a big deal was how much he argued and pushed, like my boundary was negotiable.
  • So... AITA for refusing to hang out with my fiancé's coworker's wife during his all- day game session?
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  • And also, does anyone else think this situation is kind of weird, or am I missing something here?

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